Getting Ahead

I find the topic of sex endlessly fascinating. Hence my career choice. And oral sex in particular is just a fun conversation point. Don’t you think? Just me?

I like head. I think blowjobs are fun. Not just giving oral. I write a lot about receiving. Cunnilingus scenes are some of my favourites to read so a lot of my stories include enthusiastic tongue on clit action. With regard to oral sex, what people like, what they don’t and why is a subject I find really, really interesting.

So I wanted to write today about blowjobs. 

A reader once mentioned to me that blowjobs are like flowers for men. That certainly seems to be how things are portrayed in media, like face fucking is the holy grail of men’s sexual conquests, the thing they want most and never get enough of. But is this really the case?

I’ve heard elsewhere (during one of sex columnist Dan Savage’s podcasts) that in reality this is not so. Fellatio, Savage says, is just another sex act that some men love, others like, others could take or leave and still others would rather pass on. Just like some people would rather eat pizza than chocolate (me, for example), some men would rather have straight up intercourse than have their chrome polished.

I’m going to say something now that part of me wants to scream NO at! Are you ready? Here it is: Perhaps the issue is the majority of people don't like to give head. 

 

Is this true? That's a huge generalization, I know. I, for one, am an exception. But perhaps not liking sword swallowing is the norm… and to be expected. The pipe job is a pretty selfless act and generally people are selfish. While there is a vicarious thrill that some of us really get off on, there is no direct physical pleasure for the person slobbing the knob. So people are less likely to want to do this than do something that directly feels good.

It is human nature to want what we can't or don’t have. So if most women do not enjoy playing the skin flute then maybe it seems more illusive. And guys are going to want it more. It is one of the laws of supply and demand, right? If there are fewer instances of knob polishing around then the value of that act goes up. Maybe if all things were equal, if women inhaled the oyster as readily as they fucked, then most guys would prefer fucking. (Strictly speaking it does feel better, right? Vaginas don’t have teeth.) I failed economics though so I’m just talking out of my butt. Feel free to lambast me for my flawed interpretations of economics 101. 

 

I know. In most relationships it’s not so cut and dry. It’s not like you have to choose between one or the other. Maybe you get a little hum job before you get down to the straight up monkey love. Maybe you give a little and get a little in return … maybe at the same time. And all other permutations and computations. 

But guys, I want to hear from you. Just how much do you like the tongue job? And ladies, yay or nay? Fun or nasty or ho hum? Tweet, post, comment!

And yes, I did use a glossary of blowjob euphemisms to aid in writing this post. Even a smut peddler can use a little help now and again.

Writing news

One good thing about not having posted much lately is that now I have lots of news to share with you!

The first is that I have new material out! In case you haven’t seen my tweets (and if you haven’t, why not? You should be following me on Twitter, silly!) the new HarperCollins Mischief collection Cougar came out at the end of last month and it includes my short story Dear Fuckbook. It’s a naughty little tale about a recently dumped woman in her forties who decides to take advantage of her new found freedom to go a little wild. Debauchery and sluttiness ensue. I actually blogged about it back in June so if you want a tiny peek at it, have a look here.

Second up is an update on my very first HarperCollins single author title. And the title is what I need to tell you about. Remember how I asked for your help, I put some suggestions up, conducted a poll and you voted for At Her Feet? I was so happy with your input; that was the name I liked too! So I was all content and satisfied that I had the best title. Well guess what? They’ve changed it. Ha. That’s how things roll in this industry I guess my friends and as much as I wanted to stamp my feet and insist they use my title, I thought better of it in the end. It is HarperCollins after all and you have to figure they know a little more about publishing and what sells books than little ol’ fledgling writer me. So For Her Pleasure it is!

And I have a publishing date for it now! February 21, 2013! I’ve even put a little countdown up here so that you won’t forget. Do you want to hear what my editor said when he read the manuscript? He said it’s “one of the best femdom books I’ve read in years.” Gah! I cannot tell you how thrilled I was with his praise. He is an excellent editor, not someone who just hands out compliments willy nilly and he’s been clear in the past when I’ve submitted work that was just not up to snuff – which I really appreciate. He keeps me on my toes. His opinion matters so much to me so you can be sure I celebrated his words with more than one glass of wine!

Finally, I am pleased to tell you I have finished the second installment of my trilogy. Draper Estate Book Two: Sapphic Secrets has been submitted and I await news on its acceptance. I will let you know ASAP when you can expect to have it available for purchase.

So now you are all up to date on my work. Stay tuned if you want to hear about the trials and tribulations of immigrating across the world. What? That’s not what you come here for? Oh, you want smut? Well, okay then! Why don’t I post an excerpt from one of the three stories I’ve mentioned here? But I need you to tell me which you most want to read. So what will it be? An excerpt from Dear Fuckbook, For Her Pleasure or Sapphic Secrets. Tweet me, email me or comment below and let me know!

Love,

KC